When your loved one needs help but won’t accept it

Senior woman on mobility scooter brandishing her walking stick angrily

Australians are a stoic lot. We don’t like to ask for help and this trait doesn’t go away as we get older, if anything it’s exaggerated. When you’ve managed to care for yourself and remain independent and confident in your own home the idea of accepting help can seem like a direct attack on this independence.

So how do you help your loved one accept help so they can remain safely in their own home rather than things deteriorating to the point where an Aged Care Home may be their only option?

When relying on family and friends gets too much

It’s easier to accept help from family and friends but at some point this can become too much. You may be the one having to step in and help and time with your loved one may be taken up with cleaning, cooking and washing rather than spending quality time over a cuppa or looking through old photo albums.

Time is precious; you don’t want to resent time with your loved one. Getting help for a cherished family member can also take the pressure off other carers so they can enjoy time with the person needing support, not feel like it’s a necessary burden.

Rally your supporters

Let’s face it, families can be tricky and not everyone will agree on one course of action. So you need to rally objective professionals who can make recommendations for your loved one based on what’s right for their needs, not anyone else’s interests.

Start with your loved one’s GP. A good family doctor will see their changing care needs and can recommend extra support if needed. Make an appointment with your loved one’s GP and share your concerns. The GP may be able to conduct a home visit to see first-hand the extra support they may need.

Getting help early can avoid your loved one going into an Aged Care Home

If you leave it too late your loved one’s health may decline rapidly so that an Aged Care Home is the only option. Or a sudden incident such as a fall will occur and the right support won’t be in place in order for your loved one to return home after hospital.

Putting support in place early means there’s a greater chance that your loved one can stay safely at home. It also means that they will be familiar with Home Care and can begin to form relationships with carers.

You can start with as little as one hour of care per week and this may simply mean someone to keep them company or to do some of the more physically demanding household tasks such as changing bedlinen.

There’s a wait for government subsidies

The Australian government subsidises some of the costs of aged care. Government subsidies exist for Aged Care Homes as well as Home Care. You can apply to access up to $49k per year of government subsidies to remain living in your own home. In fact, it’s cheaper for the government if you remain living in your own home than if you go into an Aged Care Home.

Keep in mind that there’s a wait-list to access government subsidies. In some cases this can be as long as 12 months. You may wish to pay for care in the meantime and this can be a good introduction to the idea of receiving help. You can start at as little as one hour per week and this way your loved one can experience the benefits of getting some extra support to remain safely at home.

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